How To Write A Eulogy

You have been asked to write and deliver a eulogy for a family member who has just passed away.

At first you see it as a great privilege; however, latter you realize that it is a daunting task. You have not spoken in a public setting before and fear that the task may be beyond you.

Furthermore, you have only a short time frame to get your thoughts and ideas together and write them down.

Don’t worry! If you follow the five simple tips below, you will be able to put together a touching and meaningful eulogy to share at the funeral service or memorial service.

What is a Eulogy?

How To Write A Eulogy

First and foremost, it is important to understand what is a eulogy? When you grasp the purpose of the eulogy, you can begin to plan what you want to say about your loved one at the funeral or memorial service.

The eulogy is a tribute that reflects specific experiences and memories of the life of the loved one who has just passed away.

The eulogy should touch on the early life and education of the deceased person. It should touch on work and family life, hobbies or interests, qualities and achievements or legacy. These are all memories that the people attending the funeral will relate to as you share with them.

As you share these experiences and memories, it will help family, friends and mourners to say goodbye to the one who has just passed away.

So you have a great privilege and honour in sharing the eulogy with those who attend the funeral or memorial service. So learn how to write a eulogy so that you can honour the one who has just passed away.

Why Structure the Eulogy?

Before you write the eulogy, take some time to organize your thoughts and ideas. The best way to do this is to put together an outline of the eulogy. This will make writing the eulogy a lot easier.

Keep in mind that every speech has three parts. There is the introduction. There is the body of what you want to say. This usually takes up the most of the speech. There is the conclusion.

You may want to structure your eulogy outline like this – introduction, a brief history of early life and education, some thoughts and comments about work and family life, a short story about hobbies and interests, some reflections relating to qualities, achievements and legacy and conclusion.

You can put this in a brief outline form.

  • Introduction
  • Early life and Education
  • Work and Family Life
  • Hobbies and Interests
  • Qualities, Achievements and Legacy
  • Conclusion

Once you have the outline together, you will simple need to write content to the outline. It is important that you write out the eulogy in full. This will give you confidence when it comes to delivering the eulogy at the funeral or memorial service.

Don’t Forget the Tone of the Eulogy!

When it comes to writing the eulogy, remember is not a formal essay. You are sharing experiences and memories with family and friends and you need to do this in a conversational tone. In other words, write the eulogy as you would speak to them.

The eulogy is often presented by someone who knows the deceased person personally. Therefore, it is also important to share personal experiences and you can do this by sharing an appropriate story. People like stories and stories tend to keep them interested in what you are saying.

Sometimes, you can use a poem to summarise what you want to say concerning the deceased person. “When a loved one is being mourned, we often turn to poetry in order to express our deepest thoughts and feelings. The right poem, whether ancient or modern, will help us celebrate a life that has ended and, perhaps, allow us to find some comfort” (Quote by Julia Watson).

Be positive also. We are not all perfect. We all have our negative side. However, the eulogy should focus on the positive experiences and memories of the deceased person.

Is the Length of the Eulogy Significant?

Yes it is! A eulogy should only be five to ten minutes in length. If you have written the eulogy well, you will be precise, clear and it will have a natural progression to it. People will be able to follow what you are saying and relate to your thoughts and memories about the deceased person.

There is nothing as awkward and uncomfortable as someone who just rambles on without any direction and flow. So keep it short. Don’t make it any longer than ten minutes.

Should you Practice the Delivery of the Eulogy?

How To Write And Deliver A Great Eulogy

Absolutely yes! Reading it out loud will help you familiarise yourself with the contents of the eulogy and it will give you confidence when you share your thoughts and memories of the deceased person.

Often when you read out loud a eulogy, you will discover some parts of the eulogy will need tweaking. That’s fine. This will help you get it right for the funeral or memorial service.

Also, practicing the eulogy will help you with the stress and emotions of the day and it will help you deliver a touching and meaningful tribute.

If you keep these five simple tips in mind, you should be able to write a eulogy speech in the time frame given and you should be able to confidently deliver the eulogy on the day of the funeral or memorial service.

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